Did you ever have a fight with a friend? As the saying goes, ‘To err is human, to forgive, divine’, it is quite normal to make mistakes and get into a fight with a friend. It would be strange if friends have never fought in life. A fight needn’t always be dreadful and terrible. It can also be considered as a new opportunity to discuss disagreements, accept the mistakes made, and compromise with one another.
Having a fight with a friend often is good enough to acknowledge the causes that led to the fight. It is also a keen reminder to not keep repeating the same mistake over and over again. Though arguments are good to strengthen your friendship bond, sometimes it may turn out to be awful to the extent that it might end up your friendship forever. So, let’s ponder over the basic things that one should avoid during a fight with a friend.
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So, what should you avoid during your fight with a friend?
Below are some of the listed things which should be avoided in order to maintain a healthy friendship.
1. Don’t bring up the past –
Bringing up the arguments or the mistakes that one may have made during the past is the worst scenario to be dragged into while resolving the current issue. Doing this can trigger the other person and is no different from adding fuel to the fire. People tend to bring up the past, especially when the cause of the fight remains similar to the one, they have had before.
In a situation like this, rehashing the past would seem like the most convenient thing to do to justify oneself. But by doing so, one would only end up making the situation worse.
Therefore, in such circumstances, instead of taking out the anger on the other person, friends who got engaged in the fight should sit and have an open conversation where they should address their grievances and come up with a solution to resolve the same.
2. Don’t let other’s opinion ruin your friendship.
Humans favour acceptance. Friends, after a fight, will look forward to seeking other’s opinions to validate their point of view and eventually gain moral support. But this would only make the problem more adverse. Friends who got engaged in the fight know each other better than anyone else. Moreover, they have a better understanding of the problem and the key reason, which led to the same.
While discussing the problem with others or their mutual friends, it will eventually leave a bad impression on the other. In addition to this, a fight with a friend will tend to lose trust in one another. A mutual friend, with whom the problem is being shared, may or may not come up with the right judgment. So, it is always better to solve the problem without letting other’s opinions into consideration.
3. Don’t take advantage of their secrets –
Who wouldn’t be angry after a fight with a friend? But it’s all momentary and everything will be back to pace once the problem gets solved. But it isn’t easy as it seems. When in anger, we make the wrong choices, and choices made in anger cannot be undone. A best friend is someone with whom we share all our secrets.
Taking advantage of this after a fight and revealing their secrets to others is regarded as a foolish and atrocious act. One may regret long after doing this and may not be able to reconnect with their friends ever. Trust, being the most fundamental factor that upholds any relationship on Earth, friends should adhere to anything that it takes to trust one another.
4. Lend your ears-
Good communication isn’t all about speaking. Being able to listen to others is also important. No communication is complete without listening to what others have to express. People don’t have the patience to listen while others are speaking and tend to justify their perspectives without acknowledging their wrongdoings. Lending your ears is the best thing you can do.
This is when people misunderstand each other, with words left untold and unheard. So, during a fight with a friend, always ensure that you don’t hinder the other from conveying what they have to talk about. Always encourage an open conversation to discuss the underlying factors that trigger a fight. This will help each other withhold everything that may annoy the other and enhance their friendship goals.
Having a friend to share your happiness and sorrows is a true blessing. Friends are the family we chose and it is our responsibility to treasure this family. Don’t ever let a silly fight ruin your friendship, but rather feel grateful to have found your tribe to vibe with.
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