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As a parent, you would have seen kids bullying their classmates back in your school or college days. If not, watch a movie or web series that portrays bullies to picture who they are and their potential threats. In the worst scenario, you would have been a victim of bullying. As far as you know what bullying is and its physiological impacts, you will need to keep your child away from it. But how? To stop child bully is a long way to go. But, the least you can do is help your child from being a victim and guide your kids not to be child bullies.
Why do kids bully?
Kids bully others for many reasons. It could be because they want to pick on someone who is physically and emotionally weak than them, or it could be because they were brought up in a similar atmosphere where calling names, mocking, and physical abuse seemed ordinary. There are instances where child bully takes place for no particular reason. Whatsoever the reason be, bullying is a hideous practice, and parents must bring things to the notice of school or college authorities to take immediate actions to end this atrocious activity.
1. Lend them your ears
Keep the communication lines between you are your children open. Be an active listener when they share their experiences at school. Do not interrupt while talking and only share your feedback or solutions to their problems once they finish talking. Let them know that they have the freedom to share their concerns, struggles, and happiness. Once they feel assured and secure about the parent-child relationship, they will be at ease to bring to your notice the child bully they are encountering at their school, neighborhood, or college.
2. Bring this to the notice of school/college authorities.
Once you confirm that your child’s allegations about the respective bullies at school are authentic, check with their class teachers. Meet the higher school authorities in person and express your concerns regarding the same. Request them to take immediate actions to avoid further such instances.
3. Teach your kids how to react
Bullies pick on people who seem physically and emotionally weaker than them. Therefore to avoid being a victim of such gruesome practices, teach your kids the right way to deal with the bullies. Ask them to stand up for themselves. Apart from that, tell your kids to seek help from their classmates and teachers to handle such situations.
4. Don’t reciprocate against the bully or their family.
It is saddening and hurting to know that your child experiences bullying at school. It is ordinary for any parent to retaliate against the child bully and their family. But, this is where you must take utmost attention and care to avoid the possible mistakes you may make. On an introductory note, refrain yourselves from indulging in any form of verbal or physical abuse. Instead, set a good example for your children by being a good problem-solver. Come up with solutions that are rational and pragmatic. By doing so, you guide your kids to develop elementary life skills like decision-making and problem-solving.
5. Support your child
Criticisms can refrain a child from sharing their problems. But this does not mean that you shouldn’t point out the mistakes your children make. Consider a situation where your child shares how they had to face bullies at school and how difficult it is to go to school any further. In scenarios like these, stay calm and neutral instead of spontaneously reacting with claims like how coward you are to be not able to stand up against the mere bullies in school and so. Such assertions made will only weaken your child emotionally and mentally. Therefore instead of blaming your child, stand up for them and support them throughout the difficult time.
Any form of teasing, when done funnily and mutually, is considered playful and not harmful. But when teasing becomes constant and crosses its limits, it is tagged as bullying. Bullying can be tormenting in both psychological and physical ways. It may leave huge scars in your child’s mind. Therefore keep a close watch over your kids and ensure that the communication line between you and your kids is always open and transparent.